Monday, July 16, 2012

Lesbians Falling For Straight Women

Many Lesbians have experienced the predicament of having romantic feelings for a straight woman. If you are a Lesbian and find yourself infatuated with a straight woman, better yet a married woman, tell yourself WHOA!

Let's paint a hypothetical scenario with a married woman. You have an emotional connection and a physical attraction for a married woman; however, there has not been any "real" indication that she is attracted to you. To continue on with the scenario, she is having major relationship issues with her husband and has been confiding with you. You are hearing some very intimate details and feeling her sadness, anger, confusion, and a bunch of other emotions. She is trying to decide what to do: divorce, counseling, separation. The two of you meet regularly for lunch a couple of times per week. You want to help her, rescue her from her awful marriage, and make her feel happy again. Take Heed: Although she may be in the process of getting a divorce or separating from her husband, that does not mean she will leave the "hetero" team.

It may not be so unusual for a Lesbian to have feelings for a straight woman. However, the actions taken (i.e. express feelings or not) determine everything. Acting on your feelings could be disastrous to the friendship.

First, people do not arbitrarily switch and vacillate between being heterosexual and homosexual. Even if someone did, heartbreak would surely ensue. Remember that old adage: You cannot be something you are not.

Wednesday, July 4, 2012

Super Woman Vs Happy Woman

Are healthy boundaries possible being a woman?

It's hard to imagine that you could possibly put yourself first when there are so many things to get done. How do some women balance business, love, and children and still have a pulse at the end of the day?

This has been the theme of almost every coaching call last week. Women are screaming for relief from the worlds demands.

I spoke to a client today, who alarmingly told me, that she and her friends have decided that they no don't want to take care of another man again. They are happy to be alone.

Is this really what we have to look forward to? A life alone.

Let's analyze what has caused our conditioning from a place of responsibility!
• Stage 1 - when a woman is single she typically puts her career first.
• Stage 2 - when she is in love, she often makes her mate a priority over her own needs.
• Stage 3 - when she has children her babies become her focal point.

So for your entire life you have been practicing coming in second place!

Times are changing fast!

You may be feeling the pull to take care of yourself? And, here is why!

Energetically women are being called forward to bathe themselves in an abundance of self love. They are being prepared to hold the context for the masculine to do what they need to do.

Tuesday, June 19, 2012

Effective Dating Tips To Keep In Mind

Dating is a form of courtship that one hopes will ultimately lead to an intimate relationship. It is an activity involving two people who are in the process of getting to know one another, and evaluating each other's potential to become one's intimate partner.

Most of the time, it is the men who ask for a date with a woman. However, a good number of men find it difficult to figure out women. They are immobilized by questions like "how do I act around her?", "What will I wear?", and "What if she finds me boring?" Well, here are some tips for men on dating women:

Saturday, June 2, 2012

Writing For Women

There are many men bloggers in the Internet who choose women as their target audience. However, most of them fail to get the interest of these women. Women seem not to care to what they write while men try their best to write for these women. Thus, for those who ask how they will be able to write for women, the answer for it may be abstract and men can never answer that for sure. Why do men write for women audience?

Men may have a hard time writing for women since they think differently. This is already seen in times when a man and a woman have an argument. While men think that they understand women, the fact is they really don't know what is running in their minds. In many arguments, men lose because they try to keep talking for the woman to understand him but she is not listening to what he is saying. Thus, the efforts are going useless. Women on the other hand, want that a man he is talking t will listen to her. Thus, she waits for the time when he is no longer shouting and only then will she speak her piece. A woman then gets what she wants since a guy will now listen to her.

Also, a tip for men who writes for women as their target audience, it must be understood that they may get the attention of women by trying to write about the interests of the woman. Thus, a guy can write anything that can catch the attention of a woman once he focuses on the interest and not on the gender.

Writing for women doesn't really need any change or any special technique. You just simply writ the way you normally do and change the topic the way that it may have a better inclination to women's interests. As women may be hard to be understood, especially by a man, then try to use different views and at least one of them will click with the interest of a woman.

Friday, May 25, 2012

Empowering Interests For Women

Of course women are interested in many things. But the question remains- are those interests that empower women or lower their self-esteem? Many women enjoy reading gossip magazines. However, pages filled with negative gossip about celebrities and unreal physical bodies does not empower women, but rather disempowers them. This article instead will outline some athletic, literary, and educational interests that women can pursue which positively impact society and specifically, women.

Through the simple athletic act of running, women can gain great self-esteem, courage, and empowerment. Running can act as a catharsis for stress and negative emotions. Running helps women to work past those issues and embrace something that is more positive. Many women find it empowering to begin running their first mile, and eventually work up to running six mile marathons.

Other athletic interests that can be empowering for women are weight-lifting and boxing. Weight-lifting teaches women how to gradually build strength, and also contains a mentally empowering aspect. Boxing teaches women how to be confrontational, which is a truly great skill for women to learn. Typically, women are viewed as being non-confrontational and thus become stereotyped as quiet or timid in society. Participating in boxing helps women to consciously break this stereotype and gain enough confidence to stand up for themselves.

Wednesday, May 9, 2012

Health Tips for Pregnant Women

Pregnant women have special health and nutrition needs. They are eating for two people, for themselves and for the new baby that is growing inside their womb. So they want to be sure they are eating healthy foods. It is important for pregnant women to watch what they eat and drink. For example, doctors advise the strict avoidance of all alcoholic beverages during pregnancy.

It is also recommended to take a folic acid supplement. Folic acid is included in any good quality brand of prenatal vitamins, as are other important nutrients such as B vitamins, minerals like calcium, etc.

If you are trying to conceive, experiencing some symptoms of pregnancy, or are now pregnant, you will want to eat a balanced and healthy diet. Your body will experience many changes as the months go by. Be sure to get plenty of rest. Fatigue is a common complaint of pregnant women. Your body is going through a lot of stressful work to create a human life. You are doing something totally amazing. And you deserve a rest, don't you think? Of course you do. So take plenty of breaks, sit down, even take a nap every day if you can.

Friday, April 20, 2012

Women's Interests, Relationship Building and the Hard Headed Man

If you are a loving woman and love a hard-headed strong man you must be tough too and not take it personally. Often very tough men do not need a shoulder to cry on and therefore you should stop probing for weakness where it does not exist and start understand the male animal you seek to be with.

Not all men have weakness inside, somewhere hidden from view. There are strong men who indeed have no weakness at all, it simply does not exist and trying to find it or coax out a sign of empathy or fear or even a gap in their strength of character will leave you searching forever.

Not all men have those secret weaknesses. Love a man for who he is, not who you want him to be. If you are looking for a man who has female emotions or a least some sign of weakness or vulnerabilities you will find them, they are out there, perhaps you would like a man like that better. Maybe not, but you may need to study both types of animals and decide what you prefer for a long-term relationship and go from there.

It is purely a matter of deciding if you are trying to change the wild animal or study him. Perhaps you can enjoy the tough man or real man for what he is rather than trying to turn him into a soft man. Because you may not like the softer side if he does change, you might be better off on finding a man with a soft weak side and exploiting that instead. It is not easy to build a relationship with a Hard Headed Man; so, good luck indeed.

Monday, April 9, 2012

Become a Blonde or a Red Head for the Week?

Not long ago, an acquaintance of mine had dyed her hair blonde, at first I didn't recognize her, I said hi, in passing and smiled, as the person I was looking at seemed very nice, but I kept walking by after that. Later I realized it was an acquaintance of mine and I didn't recognize them. They must've gotten a kick out of that one, and it must be very interesting to change her hair color and your appearance so you don't look the same, it's almost like walking around being someone else for a day.

Many people would like to see what it's like to be someone else for just a day, and this can be done rather easily by getting a makeover, or changing your hair color for a week. You might be utterly surprised by how you're treated differently by different types of people. If you change your hair color to blonde you may notice that different men look at you, or people treat you slightly differently when you go out. Same thing if you turn your hair red for a week.

What if you are a blonde and you dye your hair black it will attract different kinds of men of different after ethnic decent, who all of a sudden look at you, perhaps they didn't look at you before? Will other people ignore you? It's a great study in human psychology, and something very fun to do. To observe how people interact differently based on who they perceive you to be.

Because even though you are the same person inside what you look like on the outside does matter to people. Perhaps that's proves we are all little prejudiced, or a good number of people are, whether they like to admit it or not, or if they pretend to be politically correct in every turn. I think you'll enjoy this experiment and I wish you all the best luck. Please consider all this.

Saturday, March 24, 2012

Women Interests

What a better time to consider your posture than a few weeks before your prom. It only takes a few short weeks, of conscious adjustment, to permanently affect your posture in a positive way. Most ladies have completely forgotten what it means to have good posture. Even those of us who slouch and stand crooked even believe that we are just fine. Slender women tend to think that they are perfectly poised just because of their size. It is a myth to think that heavier women are naturally slouched; it is actually a backward opinion because heavier women are more self conscious which can equal to a straighter back, tucked tummy, and back-stacked shoulders.

Even a simple pair of heels can drastically enhance your posture in a positive manner, just by forcing the body to stand far more erect. A few tricks and tips and you can be standing tall, beautiful, and poise just in time to slip into your prom dress. Most of us sit almost all day long and sitting usually equals slouching. Be conscious of your sitting position will help your over-all standing posture. Always keep your legs uncrossed and flat on the floor; choose a chair that stacks your hips slightly higher than your knees to distribute the weight evenly; shoulders relaxed with abs light and engaged; even when you are forced to stare at a keyboard do your best to level your head as often as possible and keep it flush with your neck and spine. You should be able to place a hand between the back of the chair and the small of your back. If your normal posture has been out of whack, when you properly align yourself while sitting, you will begin to consciously notice your thighs since the legs are uncrossed now. For a healthy standing posture begin with your feet planted on the floor a few inches apart. Note your body weight and where it lies; if your weight is on your heels then you are out of alignment. Your standing weight should always rest evenly on your feet so that you feel it in your chest and abs. Keep your knees bent, slightly to hold your weight. Never lock your knees. Pull your belly button toward your spine to find your stability and always keep your head, and neck, in-line with your shoulders. If you can carry these perfect poses for one to two consecutive weeks, you are on your way to finding your perfect, full-time posture, and keeping your spine, legs, and hips healthy throughout the years.

Friday, March 2, 2012

Men and the Interesting Woman

While men do generally like the feeling of being wanted and needed, they do not like to be smothered to death. To many men this is a complete turnoff. Many men desire to have a woman that has a healthy balance of co-dependency with independence. It seems that those women that have a life of their own while also making time for their male counterparts are far more favored by the gentlemen than the "clingy be by my side all the time" type of woman.

Why would this be the case? Well, there are a number of reasons why men prefer women that are a bit more independent. In general, what men want is a happy medium when it comes to certain personality traits regarding their women. Independence is a healthy sign that a woman is able to do some things on her own. This does not necessarily mean that she does not need a man. It simply means that she is capable of doing things on her own and has her own agenda in life. Independence is viewed as being very sexy by many men, and in many cases, there are men that are willing to go above and beyond for women that show traits of being independent as opposed to those that are overly clingy and needy.

It is very important to note that women that have their own lives and interests are perceived differently than women that are constantly waiting for a man to complete them. What man want from women is to know that the women in their lives have something to occupy their times besides them. Women that have hobbies or activities that they enjoy are far more attractive than those that are overly engrossed in a man. This may seem a bit weird to some women, but the truth of the matter is men want women that are interesting an engaging. They want a woman that actually has interests and activities that she enjoys. Men do want a woman that is capable of sharing herself in many ways. This is more possible if a woman has something that interests her that she can share. It can be anything from taking a dance class or learning how to play a musical instrument to going back to school to further her education. A woman with interests outside of the man that she is dating or involved with is a woman with substance.

It is very important to note that moderation in all things is necessary when considering the independent woman. Just as men do not want a woman that is completely clingy, they also do not want a woman that is so fiercely independent that they feel as if they are not even a consideration to her. What men want are women that can strike a balance between being needed while also continuing to have their own lives.