Wednesday, July 4, 2012

Super Woman Vs Happy Woman

Are healthy boundaries possible being a woman?

It's hard to imagine that you could possibly put yourself first when there are so many things to get done. How do some women balance business, love, and children and still have a pulse at the end of the day?

This has been the theme of almost every coaching call last week. Women are screaming for relief from the worlds demands.

I spoke to a client today, who alarmingly told me, that she and her friends have decided that they no don't want to take care of another man again. They are happy to be alone.

Is this really what we have to look forward to? A life alone.

Let's analyze what has caused our conditioning from a place of responsibility!
• Stage 1 - when a woman is single she typically puts her career first.
• Stage 2 - when she is in love, she often makes her mate a priority over her own needs.
• Stage 3 - when she has children her babies become her focal point.

So for your entire life you have been practicing coming in second place!

Times are changing fast!

You may be feeling the pull to take care of yourself? And, here is why!

Energetically women are being called forward to bathe themselves in an abundance of self love. They are being prepared to hold the context for the masculine to do what they need to do.

Now don't take this as a reason to put up walls because that is not what I am talking about at all. When you take care of yourself first, you have what it takes to play a bigger game. Women are gathering all over the planet with courage and self worth.

My suggestion to you if you so want it, is to let go and nurture you.

Here are some steps to love you up and still get it all done!

#1 Start your day with self love
When you get up in the morning make the first 30 minutes your time. Do what you love to do. Paint, dance, garden. Do whatever makes your heart sing. (Please do not use this as time to get more done). This is your love you time!

#2 Joint Venture's for women
Run your life like a business. Only do the things that you want to do and find a way to get support on the other details. It's amazing that when you stop saying 'I can't' how many options open up in your space. If you can't get out of your own way then go ask your friends for advice.

#3 Be Flexible
When you feel like you have to get things done you can easily drop into a ridged mentality. What I know for sure is that nobody feels the love when they are ridged. Everything becomes hard and people do not want to be around you. Let go and let God. Have some fun with seeing where life goes when you follow other peoples lead. Let it go, it's not the end of the world!

Here's to you finding healthy boundaries and still getting it done!

I want to know how it goes when you try one of these steps, or what steps do you already do that create the that love time?

For the past two years, Shanda has focused solely on creating opportunities for women (both individually and by creating 'sisterhoods') using her business expertise in applying cutting edge tools and key principles proven in successful business.

She is also a highly sought after life coach and speaker specializing in women's interests and issues. She travels the globe assisting individuals, companies, and large groups.

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